Don’t Settle For Less
3 Must-Ask Questions Before You Say “Yes” To Him…
“Should I stay with this man or not?”
Thats’s a question I hear a lot.
I understand how challenging it can be to navigate this situation, especially when you have strong feelings for someone.
You may even be in love with him, but there are certain aspects of the relationship that just don't align with what you truly want and deserve.
That's why I'm excited to share three questions with you that you can ask yourself when you're questioning whether this is the right man and relationship for you.
If you can't answer "yes" to these three questions, it might be time to move on.
I hope these questions will help guide you in the right direction and ultimately lead you to a fulfilling and loving relationship.
Question No 1: Does his energy flow towards you and your relationship?
I remember dating this gorgeous man, Mike. Tall, funny, intelligent, successful… a great guy.
I adored him. More than that, I was gushing about him. His energy was coming towards me in a certain fashion, but he was not interested in the committed relationship that I knew I needed in order to be happy.
Despite of all he said about a potential future toghether… coming to the realisation that he was not on the same page came through observing his actions.
I was emotionally attached already when I should not have been – needless to say it was difficult to let him go.
In my program “The Crazy Relationship Fix” you’ll learn all about how to exit or chance a crazy relationship when it seems impossible.
When it comes to relationships, it's important to know whether the person you're interested in is motivated to pursue a relationship with you or work on things if you're already in a relationship.
So, the first question that you have to ask yourself is, does this man seem motivated to invest in you or the relationship?
However, it's not enough to simply take their answers at face value - it's essential to pay attention to their consistent actions over time.
One of the most significant indicators of a person's interest in a relationship is their energy.
Are they consistently showing interest in you and making time for you, or are they only available for a small portion of the time and making excuses for the rest?
If it's the latter, then it's time to revaluate the situation.
If someone is truly motivated to be in a committed relationship with you, they will make an effort to prioritize your relationship.
This doesn't mean that they have to drop everything for you, but it does mean that they will make an effort to make time for you and be present in the relationship.
It's easy to get swept up in the excitement and chemistry of a new relationship, but it's important to remember that small, consistent actions are what truly matter in the long run.
If someone is only giving you 10% of their time and energy, then it's clear that they're not motivated to make things work.
Of course, there are always exceptions to the rule, and every situation is unique. Sometimes people have other priorities that take up most of their time and energy, such as work or family commitments.
However, even in these cases, it's essential to pay attention to how they prioritize you within their limited free time.
If you're already in a relationship, it's important to consider whether your partner is motivated to work on things and prioritize you.
This means that they're willing to put in the effort to communicate, compromise, and work through issues together.
It's essential to have open and honest conversations about what each of you wants from the relationship and where you see it going.
If your partner is not motivated to work on things or is not interested in the same level of commitment as you, then it may be time to revaluate whether the relationship is meeting your needs.
Remember, you deserve to be with someone who is motivated and committed to being in a relationship with you.
Don't settle for less than you deserve.
Keep an open mind and trust your gut.
If someone's consistent actions are not showing that they want to prioritize a relationship with you, it may be time to move on and find someone who does.
Question No 2: How do you like yourself?
The second question that you should be asking yourself when it comes to relationships is one that often gets overlooked.
It's all about how you feel about yourself when you're with this man.
Do you feel good about yourself both when he's right in front of you and when he's not?
It's easy to get caught up in our feelings for a man and forget about our own needs and desires. We tend to put all of our focus on him and forget to pay attention to how we're feeling about ourselves. But this is a crucial part of any relationship.
Take a moment to ask yourself if you like the person you are or the person you've become in this relationship.
Does this man encourage you to express yourself and be more of yourself, or do you feel like you have to hide parts of yourself to keep him interested?
Are you constantly walking on eggshells, afraid of saying or doing the wrong thing and losing him?
Or do you feel so anxious and stressed out because he's so inconsistent and hot and cold that you don't even recognize yourself anymore?
These are important questions to ask yourself, whether you're just dating this man or in a committed relationship.
It's essential to be aware of how you feel about yourself in the context of this relationship.
If you feel like you're constantly compromising who you are or suppressing your feelings and desires, then it's time to revaluate the situation.
You should never have to sacrifice your own sense of self-worth and self-respect for the sake of a relationship.
A healthy relationship should bring out the best in you, not the worst. Your partner should encourage you to be your authentic self and support you in your goals and aspirations.
So, don't forget to check in with yourself and ask how you feel about yourself when you're with this man.
If the answer is anything other than positive, it may be time to move on and find someone who truly appreciates and values you for who you are.
Question No 3: Are you in too deep?
And finally, let's talk about the third question you should ask yourself when it comes to evaluating a potential or current relationship with a man.
The third question is all about objectivity. It's about taking a step back and asking yourself if you would tolerate the behaviour or accept what this man is giving you from another man.
This is a really important question because it helps you to remove the rose-coloured glasses and see the situation for what it really is.
So often, women will say that they would never tolerate this kind of behaviour from another man, but for some reason, they keep holding out hope that things will change with this particular guy.
They become attached or invested in the situation, and they start trading away little pieces of themselves over time.
Maybe he's still dating other women, or maybe he talks to his ex-girlfriend all the time, and you start saying things like, "It's okay, I can handle this." But the truth is, you're just trading away your own desires and needs in a relationship.
This kind of thing doesn't happen all at once. It's a slow process that happens over time. Before you know it, you're totally invested in a man who doesn't feel the same way about you.
You find yourself pining for him and dreaming about a relationship that's just not the reality of what's going on.
The key here is to be objective.
Try to look at the situation as if you were an outsider, looking in.
If you wouldn't tolerate this behaviour from another man, then you shouldn't tolerate it from this man either.
It can be hard to be objective, especially when you're emotionally invested in someone. But it's so important to take a step back and evaluate the situation with a clear head.
Remember, you deserve to be with someone who treats you with respect and makes you feel valued.
Don't settle for less just because you're attached to a particular guy or invested in a particular situation. Be true to yourself and your own desires, and don't trade away little pieces of yourself for anyone.
If you can't say "YES" to these questions, it might be time to walk away and find someone who a better match for you.
